Providing and Receiving Safe Adult Sexual Services 

ESCORT ETIQUETTE

Providing and Receiving Safe Adult Sexual Services 

Not a single day goes by where I don’t have at least one potential client asking me if I provide natural services. My reply is always “absolutely not”, “not ever, and not under any circumstanced”. I so do not understand why anyone would want unprotected sex or oral sex, and why so many young men are willing to take the risk for a few minutes of extra pleasure.

What if I pay extra?

There is not enough money in the world to change my mind. You can not afford this privilege, it is not available to you. Please do not ask. When I say no, Please do not ask again.

I’m regularly tested, with a clear history of no STI’s?

No test available for some STI’s – There are numerous sexually transmitted infections, including some strands of HPV (Genital warts), where there is no test for men, or where the test is ineffective for men. Other STI’s that are known to cause cancer in both men and women do not have standard or specialized tests available. The only way you can become aware of having had the disease is when cancer or a secondary infection/disease is detected in either you or in one of your sexual partners.

Routine sexual health tests do not include all STI’s – In Australia, routine sexual health tests requested from your GP do not include Gonhorrea in the standard assay. It must be requested specifically. If your GP is aware that you belong to a “high-risk category” (ie sex worker, homosexual, IV drug user etc) they will generally include other specific tests. So next time you are asking for your regular sexual health check-up, be sure to inquire about what diseases you are being tested for and ask for the full gamut of assays.

Infection incubation period – If you are exposed to an STI or HIV/AIDS, there is a period of time where the infection, although present in the body, has not become an active infection and will not be detectable by a sexual health test. For example, after a potential HIV/AIDS exposure, it is usually recommended that a person is tested immediately and then has 2-3 follow up tests at 3, 6 and 12 months post exposure. This is because antigens produced by the disease are often not at levels that are detectable until up to 12 months after being exposed to HIV/AIDS.

I’m disease free, you can look and see there is nothing wrong with me

Infected with no signs or symptoms – It is possible for men and women to be non-symptomatic, while infected with an STI. This means that even though there are no visible signs of the disease (no blisters, sores, itching, redness, abnormal discharge or bad odors) you can still be infected with an STI, and pass it on to other sexual partners.

Non- STI but still Contagious – Bacterial, fungal and viral infections (such as tinea, impetigo, candida, thrush, or influenza, measles) and other contagious skin conditions are not considered “Sexually Transmitted Infections” but can still be transmitted during sexual contact, skin to skin contact, and through close non-intimate contact. Even when using condoms, you can still be at risk for many other diseases and infections. The skin in and around the lips, mouth, nose, and eyes, as well as around the anus, vagina, or penis, is very thin and permeable. Cuts and sores that are open or in the healing process, can provide entry points into the bloodstream. Bacteria, microbes, and diseases can penetrate easier through these areas than through the skin on the rest of your body.

I’m a virgin, so I 100% clean and not infected with an STI

Infections and diseases that are classified as sexually transmitted infections (STI’s) can not only be transmitted through sexual contact but also through many other non-sexual means.  At Birth diseases like HIV, Syphilis, Warts, and Herpes can be transmitted to newborns, and although medical science has advanced to where the likelihood of these transmissions is low, it is still completely possible.  Oral contact can transmit Herpes, Influenza, and in the case of oral candida, and oral chlamydia these diseases can be passed through oral contact too.  IV Drug use, blood transfusions, and accidental blood to blood contact (such as through sport or providing first aid) are other possible methods of disease and infection transmission.

But can’t you just take a pill if you get infected?

While there are some STI’s that have post-exposure prophylactics to reduce the likelihood of the disease taking effect (such as with HIV and Chlamydia), or antibiotics that can ‘cure’  or manage symptoms the disease, there are still many STI’s that have no cure and no test to detect them.  The only way you become aware of having had the infection is when the disease progresses to secondary and further stages such as cancer.

So if you can still get an infection even when you use condoms how do you stay safe?

Client Visual Health Checks – Before every service, and before my visitors take a shower or go to the toilet when they arrive, I perform a visual health inspection.  I’m not a doctor or a nurse, I can’t diagnose diseases or infections, but I have had university-level training in skin anatomy and in the identification of skin diseases, in particular, infectious diseases.    I am able to competently identify them and other skin issues that may be suspicious.   I would never tell a client that I think they have something, as I am not a doctor.  All I can do is say I am concerned about something I can see and am not able to proceed with our appointment until the concern is no longer there.  I might suggest that they speak to their GP, a Sexual health professional or a pharmacist for advice. I am very reluctant to explain what I think I am seeing or go into detail about why the service cannot proceed as desired.  Some clients may be offended about being “rejected” but I try to remind them that even a shaving cut, which is in no way anything related to an STI, can mean the difference between proceeding with the service or not.

I also suggest that clients who regularly see escorts, who have multiple sexual partners and who have had unprotected vaginal, anal or oral sex with a new person should be getting tested regularly and seek advice from their GP as to how frequently they should be tested, based on their lifestyle choices.

In some cases the service can be modified to accommodate any concerns at the client’s agreement – so instead of full service, the client might choose to only receive a hand job for example and the rate the client pays is obviously adjusted for the change in service.   Just because I can’t continue with the service or need to adjust the service,  doesn’t mean that you have an STI.   In situations where a client has cut themselves shaving or trimming close to their penis, and the cut has not healed completely, and it can not be covered by a band-aid, I would not be able to have intercourse with the client as it would be possible for blood to come into contact with my vagina, and this would provide a route of blood-borne disease transmission.  Although the risk hinders on whether the client has an STI or not, it’s still not a risk I am willing to take.

Regular STI Checks – When I worked in brothels we were required to have regular STI health checks every 3 months. I felt that this was a little long in between for especially for those who worked quite frequently.  If you were only seeing 1-2 clients a week, maybe every three months is ok, but if you are busier, I would feel more comfortable with suggesting monthly check-ups.  It’s literally a 15-30mins GP visit and a less than 5min follow up appointment a few days later. Medicare bulk bills these tests so there is really no reason why every working girl should not be having regular testing done.

Visual health check on me. –  Some clients, not a lot, will ask if they can do a health check on me.  I’m not sure if they know what they are looking for, but I completely welcome any request to perform a visual health check on me. This can be done either before we start or as part of the play time. The only requirement I have is that I all fees must be paid in full before I remove my clothes, and gloves should be worn at that stage.

High Hygiene Standards – Staying sexually healthy also requires a high standard of personal and household hygiene.  The following is a list of some of my hygiene and infection control practices to keep you and me safe and healthy.

Showering before and after each service
Clients shower before their service, and prior to any second or third times.
Clients will be asked to re-shower if they have not washed properly.
Body wash gel and soap provided
New sheets, towels, and linen for each and every client.
Sheets, Towels, and linen are washed in 60 Degree or higher hot water for long cycles.
Regularly clean surfaces in “my office” with disinfectant.
General clean of bath/shower and bathroom after each client.
Thorough disinfectant/bleach clean of bathroom/shower daily.
Regularly use glen 20 to kill bacteria in the air.
Industrial grade air purifier 2-3 times a week in bedrooms and living areas to kill airborne bacteria.
Disinfectant followed by UV sterilizer for sex toys and reusable items
Single-use items available where appropriate.
Mouthwash, deodorant, hand/face moisturizer,  hair gel, combs, disposable razors and other personal toiletries available for clients.
Regularly vacuum and clean my apartment
Bottled water is usually available for clients.
Plus many other comforts provided for your health, safety, and enjoyment.

Responsible service of sex – I genuinely think that escorts should complete a responsible service of sex and adult services certificate, to help them understand how to provide safe and hygienic adult services and maintain the health and safety of their clients and for themselves. I have heard so many horror stories from clients who have visited escorts who have less than substandard working conditions and provide little to no comforts for their clients.

Final Thoughts

Despite offering a high standard of hygiene and safe sexual services I am often still confronted with clients who don’t understand or appreciate the difficulty in providing a high standard of service when their own standards are not high.  I do appreciate that some clients coming directly from work will need to freshen up and shower, that is totally understandable, its when they turn up in need of a shower and then complain about having to have one that really leaves me bamboozled.
When clients ask for natural and unprotected services I am very unlikely to accept their booking requests, the fact that they are seeking unprotected services is a risk to me and my many safe and respectable clients and I don’t want to put them or me at risk for a few $100.

Clients who have an issue, or see something that doesn’t feel or look normal in their genital area or in their mouth should see advice as soon as possible and not engage in sexual activities until their GP or health professional clears them.   If you are being turned away or offered alternative services because of something that looks suspicious, and your GP says that its nothing to worry about, either ask them about options for having it removed or seek a second opinion.

Also…Clients whose foreskin does not completely rollback can be at a higher risk for poor hygiene and sexual health issues, talk to your GP about this and ensure your hygiene standards are high, cleaning in and underneath the skin folds as best you can regular and after using the bathroom.  The skin in this area can become extra sensitive due to a build-up of dead skin, fluids and bacteria, if this is an issue for you speak to your GP about how you can manage your hygiene and sexual health appropriately.  Be sure to explain to your escort that your foreskin does not roll back, and what measures you need to take (such as how the condom is put on) to ensure your comfort) be sure to use enough lubrication, as condoms can break due to the increased friction caused by the condom not folding around the foreskin.


This article was first published on June 6, 2017, and Updated on July 28, 2018